Being "every woman" is overrated.
Whitney knew some THINGS but how realistic is it to actually be every woman. All the time. I think the only constant in my life is that I'm a mother and even then, when I'm sick I want to be the baby. Or when I haven’t had enough sleep (6/7 nights). Or when I want someone to buy new shoes and clothes for ME. Other than that though I feel like my other hats are variables.
In an ideal world, I would be able to do everything I wanted to do all the time. Be the best mum there is, be the most banging therapist to my clients with all my admin done and up-to-date, be the best founder with a flourishing non-profit as a result of that, be the best student and have all my reading done BEFORE the lessons, have all the laundry and ironing done as soon as its ready, LOOK ON POINT (Jesus, when?) and just be a boss in life. How perfect pls? Yet I'm sitting here, in dire need of a new wig, with admin in my inboxes and a to-do list the length of Future's child support bill. I'm tired.
I think it all boils down to the pressure we put on ourselves to be perfect. I know I put mad pressure on myself to have everything sorted. At this point in my life, I am a mother, a therapist, a student, a founder and a budding baker. To be able to do all of those things perfectly EVERY DAY is a big ask and yet I continue to put that pressure on myself because I do want to succeed in all of them. I think what I am ready to accept is that there has to be a hierarchy of importance everyday. That is the only way I'm going to be able to make peace with not getting certain things done.
SO, my son is always going to be top priority which means that being a therapist will always be second because essentially that is how I plan to look after him. I guess the 2nd slot can change depending on my availability and what I plan to do for that day but I think there is something important in recognising that everything doesn't have to be done as soon as it's thought of. I am that person who will think of something and want to achieve it straight away or be the best at it immediately and I feel like God has been bringing me into arenas where I have had to question myself, to help me change the harmful ways I forced myself to be perfect. What even is perfect anyway?
I guess I am every woman at different times, or even all at once but not all at once perfectly and that is perfectly okay. This blog post is for anyone like me who wants to be the best at everything they do but also wants to give themselves a break! Success is a gradual process and you may do better in some avenues quicker than others, that's not a bad thing. I am screaming this to myself too btw.
Anything you want done baby, I do it naturally - BUT, not perfectly every time. I am more than capable, but sometimesssss sis can't be bothered. sis needs a break. sis is tired. sis is overwhelmed. sis is ME.